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Transgendered Sexuality: One Woman’s Journey with Robyn Ashmore

Robyn Ashmore grew up with the idea of wanting to be normal “I’m gonna marry a girl, buy the house, get two labs, pop out a couple children, and then I’ll be normal.” She buried that side of her very deep that knew another dream, her real dream and her real self were inside wanting to be expressed. She started her transition in her later 40s – when she wrapped up the false life that she had created. She shares her story of her transition as well as her journey of rediscovering and reclaiming her sexuality.

Topics:

  • The toll it took on Robyn to hide her true gender identity for most of her life.
  • Robyn’s journey from cis-man to trans-woman.
  • What it’s like for Robyn to become sexually active again following her transition.
  • The distinction between transgender and transsexual.
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The Culture of Male Sexuality in Jamaica with Akasha Saunders

Akasha is a “Soulspeaker” – part spiritual healer, part soul liberator, and Co-Founder of the Braveheart Men’s Movement. We are all on a journey of becoming who we are truly are. That is our purpose in life. Akasha’s duty is to walk with you, supporting you with discovering and being your True Self, and experiencing lasting happiness and peace.

Topics:

  • The Jamaican culture around sex, where it is common for children to start experimenting as young as 5 years old and for men to father children with multiple wives across the country.
  • Akasha’s journey through the cultural expectations of masculine sexuality and how he found his own authentic expression of sex and intimacy.
  • What it’s like being a father and role model around sex and relationship for his young boy.

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Surviving Sexual Assault and Learning Consent with Ashley Manta

Ashley Manta likes to talk about sex—a lot. It’s not taboo for her. You know what’s else isn’t taboo for her? Cannabis. In fact, this bubbly buxom blonde has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual™ brand.

As a professional sex educator, writer, coach, and facilitator, Ashley helps people navigate these topics to make sure they are interacting, loving, and feeling their best in and out of the bedroom. Ashley writes a weekly educational column on sex and cannabis for renowned online cannabis resource, Leafly.com.

Most recently she began writing a weekly blog for Dope Magazine’s Hump Day High about her life as the CannaSexual™. In March, she moderated a panel at SXSW titled, “The Surprising Health and Sex Benefits of Cannabis.”

She earned a Bachelor’s degree in Philosophy with a minor in Women’s Studies and has completed graduate coursework for a Master of Arts in Philosophy.

Topics:

  • Consent and conscious choice in sex.
  • Empowerment, strength, and pleasure in sex validation seeking.
  • Ashley’s story of surviving rape, multiple times, and how she healed enough to be the sex educator she is today.
  • How to support a survivor of sexual assault.

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Disabled People Have Sex Too… with Meaghan Ryan Coates

Meaghan Ryan Coates is an artist, actress, spiritual teacher, and Pushcart Prize nominated writer, with cerebral palsy. 

Her latest project, Sexual Being, is a documentary that looks at sexuality and disability, with the aim to break down old paradigms of thought around disability, but markedly, how it relates to romantic and sexual viability. 

She believes that rather than disability being a hindrance- or a selling point, our growth point as a society will be reached when it simply isn’t, “such a big deal.”  Being that the issue is still so taboo, she enjoys being a disabled female with this relaxed attitude, and hopes to inspire others toward a less constricted view of who they are, and what is possible for them.  

Ultimately, her biggest passion is for healing through conscious connection and creativity.

Topics:

  • Creating an empowered sexuality while living with disability.
  • Assumptions and incorrect judgments around sex, sexuality, and cerebral palsy.
  • The fine line between admiration and pity toward people with disabilities.

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Coming Out Gay Late in Life with Rick Clemons

Rick is a professional speaker, podcaster, author, life strategist, gay Dad and Husband. He is the host of The Coming Out Lounge podcast and author of Frankly Dear, I’m Gay. He has also been referred to as The Gay Man’s Coach and The Coming Out Coach.

Topics:

  • Being a late bloomer in more ways than one: Coming out as gay late and finding his passion later in life
  • Needs vs. Desires: How to bring the unconscious to consciousness in your relationship.
  • Owning your unconventional relationship style to have a more fulfilling relationship.

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Sex in the Mormon Church with Nate Bagley of Loveumentary

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Nate Bagley is the creator of The Loveumentary and a founder of Unbox Love. He loves helping people create amazing love in their lives. He loves hearing from his readers. You can reach him at www.loveumentary.com.

Topics:

  • Nate’s journey from a 13 year old boy with deep, disabling shame to a 32 year old man with a healthy, open mindset around sex and sexuality.
  • Get an insider’s look into the challenges – and the beauty – of sexuality within the Mormon culture.
  • How to make your relationship better than it was yesterday – everyday.

Quotes:

  • I never want my kids to have sex with anybody that they can’t talk about having sex with first.

  • That’s part of the beauty of the religion, is that God made us sexual beings, he made sex pleasurable for a reason.

  • Talking about sex is really cool and is something that can only truly benefit a relationship. If you’re able to talk about it and communicate about it and understand that it’s ok to experience pleasure and that we’re built for pleasure.


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Sex in Singapore and Vaginismus with Sexologist Dr. Martha Lee

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Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Tara Lee is a Clinical Sexologist who has been conducting sexuality and relationship coaching, and running sexuality education events in Asia since 2009. She is compassionate, practical, honest, interactive and solution-focused. Dr. Lee incorporates a blend of conventional and alternative approaches and draws upon a variety of styles and techniques to support each client as they work to resolve both current problems and long-standing patterns.

Dr. Lee utilizes her years of experience in professional communications and volunteer counseling to optimize her coaching work. She has worked with a lot of couples who have unconsummated marriage; men and women with sexual inhibitions and sexual desire discrepancies; men with erection and ejaculation concerns; as well as with GLBTQ and kink folks. A well-traveled Singaporean Chinese, Martha welcomes individuals as well as couples of all sexual orientations, and is available via skype or face-to-face in Singapore. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.

Topics:

  • Vaginismus – The painful condition that happens when a woman’s vagina shuts down making penetration difficult or impossible. Working with women with vaginismus accounts for about 90% of the work Dr. Martha does in her practice.
  • Growing up as the exception to the rule in the sexually conservative Singaporian culture.
  • If you don’t use it, you lose it. The more likely you are able to have orgasm by yourself, the more likely you will be able to have an orgasm with your partner.

Quotes:

  • Every week I get a few inquiries on Vaginismus, every week. I’ve been doing this for 7 years, I have worked with more than 300 couples who have vaginismus.
  • I think a lot of men, and maybe more so Asians, tend to be givers. They really want their partners to be happy. And they blame themselves a lot when their partners are not sexually satisfied.
  • We as sexologists believe that if you don’t use it, you lose it. If you don’t touch yourself, you are not sexual, you don’t really know what it means to be in your body. The more likely you are able to have orgasm by yourself, the more likely you will be able to have orgasm with your partner. If you don’t know your body, you don’t know what you like. How are you going to be able to tell your partner?

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From Sexless to Cosmically Orgasmic – Marriage with Ev’Yan and Jonathan

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Ev’Yan Whitney is a writer who openly chronicles her journey of erotic awakening and exploration on her blog. In addition to writing about her sex life, she’s also a sexuality doula—a woman who helps facilitate, educate, and hold space for other women who want to step out of sexual shame and into their erotic power.

Jonathan Mead is an irreverent pioneer, champion for human wildness and professional instigator. He quit his job at age 23 after moonlighting on his own terms. Now in his early 30’s and a full-time renegade, he’s passionate about helping men reawaken the giants sleeping within them. He’s found that by helping men reconnect with nature, they discover their own true nature and wild masculine strength. His deepest mission is to instigate a worldwide movement of wild brotherhood, focusing on helping men uncage, one at a time.

In This Conversation We Discuss:

  • How Jonathan and Ev’Yan’s sex life went from a gut wrenching, horrible zero to an 11 out of 10.
  • How taking sex off of the table wasn’t about giving up – it was one of the better decisions they made in their relationship.
  • Sexual sovereignty – before you can be sexual with anyone else you need to have an intimate sexual relationship with yourself first.
  • Owning erotic/sexual identities within the relationship.

Top Quotes:

  • If something is going on in a relationship that is not working, it’s so easy to take it personally and think it’s about you, when really it is so much more complex than that.
  • I had thought I was just broken … I was one of those broken, frigid women who would never be able to experience sex and a sex life that she was joyful about. Up until that point, sex had very much felt like a chore, like something that I had to do in order to keep my man.
  • We have incredible amazing, earth shattering, cosmically orgasmic sex. It’s not every time, but it’s damn near close.
  • Being open and willing to explore and try new things has been what has allowed us to continue to have better and better sex.

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